Moving Places

Since the time you became an embryo and attached yourself to the uterus till you are lying dead in the coffin box, you are just moving places. Yes, that’s how I happen to look at it lately. After spending 9 months you’re just set free to adjust in the outside world and survive. You cry you throw tantrums but the reality is that you have to live in the new place you’re in. 
Oh you cannot just live there for long, you’re 3 let’s go to school. That’s where it all starts. Then you’re 4,5,6.....21 ah! The workplace (no idea how to get things done) the place most of us hate but hey no looking at it that way, it’s making you successful. You go on and on.

At every place you’ve been, you leave a little part of your heart there because you tried to make it your own. That’s why it hurts and there are tears in your eyes when you’re about to leave it and move to another one. May it be school, high school or even a workplace you never liked.

Now how about being a married girl and moving to a new place altogether. Yes hurts badly right? There can’t be denial because you hear that a new home to you but again survival hacks. Everything changes from the food you ate to the bed you comfortably slipped into when you wanted. But you make it your own though it takes sometime to “feel at home”.

Now just think about moving to a new place in a new country. I hated the thought of it in the whole growing up thing but no way you can deny. Set up a new home choosing little things with precision. Now I have no idea how a man thinks over this but being a woman, I have put in my heart and soul to make it a home. And then after a while you have to leave it all and move forward to another place in another country because- “success awaits “.

The same story repeats and with all the courage and positivism let’s get started. Everything I ever learned in the whole lifetime of 26 years , moving places and losing heart to it is what has made me "ME".  It has made me look beyond and given me an outlook to believe in myself and the ability to adjust and rise up to situations. It has changed the way I used to look at life. The empathetic me has made me think how others who move places as refugees to save their lives in terror struck countries would perceive this. The valid thought then arises - “You cannot survive without moving places”.

More power to you!

Connecting Minds Across Miles

Some call it destiny;others call it fate,

Everything happens through his will maybe early or late.

Never thought of Connecting Minds Across Miles,

Until I heard from you in all the possible styles.

Always thought strangers are dangerous, 

But never met someone who was so venturous. 

In the world full of vague relationships, 

I saw you being so sure giving my heartbeat multiple skips.

The mind fought battles with the heart,

Was it the right thing ever to start.

You stood there firm with welcoming arms,

Being calm we settled things with societal norms.

Yes it was quick but nothing ever felt so right,

We decided on forever and I have been smiling bright.

Why Hate when you can Love??

Humankind is one such species with a mixture of so many emotions and expressions. I wonder out of so many options why Hatred is chosen as a medium of expression or even thought.

I was reading a book  - Best Laid Plans by Sidney Sheldon , a great author with amazing stories we have been reading since years. Out of all the characters in there, there is one which has become my all time favorite - Dana Evans . A remarkable lady with a true hero inside portraying the war in Sarajevo at her own risk. A war which had no reason, no right or wrong. This is not just a situation there but currently in Iraq and neighboring countries as well. Innocent people are killed and children are abandoned on streets, refugee camps are bombed but the question is WHY???

Everyday we hear some or the other news of violence and racism. Why there is no Peace? Is it because the government is too focused on getting profits from the war supplies they offer to the countries in need or is it that war helps to get funding from UN. Talking on a minuscule level, do we have peace within our own selves???

We always hear to the news stories and start wondering how bad the world is but we never tend to peep in our own self and ponder how we have been throughout our lives. Before we think what the world does, have we ever taken out time to think that even we are a part of this very own world? We make the World. Sadly we have our own boundaries. We limit our good self only to those who make us feel happy or to whom we are more attached, but does this make us hate the others who fail to meet this criteria? I would say it doesn't. Why we Hate when we have a beautiful thing called Love?

Ever wondered why some people succeed quickly in life's race than others? Mainly because they don't waste their valuable time in envying the people and thinking about how they don't deserve what they have achieved. "Love all" is not possible always as we are not God but "No Hate" is not at all difficult. We have grown up with the notion that Love solves all the problems but ironically the same was rarely used. A Hindu would somewhere Hate a Muslim and vice-a-versa, A poor would envy the rich, A woman would be jealous of another beautiful woman, A scholar would always look down upon the weak performers, the scenarios are many to list down but why can't we look at our own betterment?

Hate gives you negativity and when it spreads, makes you restless and anxious.The beauty of Love is that it makes you stronger as it gives you Peace and Peace makes you prosper. Love Multiplies as it spreads on and on. The power of love can buy you some of the best people in this world and you can always choose to neglect the few who hinder your growth but never Hate as you will have them in your mind that ways. Love is a tool which helps to repair all your problems and mend broken connections. Love can make an animal be your loyalest companion, Love can cure an ailing being, Love can demolish the stupid societal structure, all in all Love can make you Human!

Spread Love, Spread Positivism. Stop worrying about petty issues and hating others for them. You can change this world because you make it. Hate has never nor will it solve any problems of this world being the only cause of them. World will be a better place to live in if we understand and imbibe this in our daily lives.

Towards Glory

There comes a time when you have to choose,

To take the less travelled path or the one that's been in use.

Standing amidst the dark i think,

With which of the two paths my life would sync.

There are people and experiences to learn from but no light on the left,

The other has uneven surfaces and uncut bushes but a ray of light with great zest.

Maybe the less travelled path is more promising and comfortable,

People who took the other just learnt from experiences which kept them stable.

Why would people not think of risking themselves towards the ray of light,

There could be a new success story that can make you shine bright.

There is a chaos in my thoughts and mind in a fight,

Standing there aloof throughout the night.

Finally i choose the path that has a ray of light but no success story,

With a believe that this is what i wanted and I walked towards the glory.

                                            - Jagjeet Kaur Saini

Espial

Walking away from the mess,
Carefully playing in life's chess,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Closing doors of the past,
winking over the shadows it cast,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Accepting the reality of broken promises,
healing the outcome of all the losses,
 I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Wandering alone through the dark roads,
Coming across varied souls,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Realising how mean people are,
Then too being humble at par,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Loving myself all over again,
overcoming every sorrow and pain,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Hoping God provides me some sanity,
To keep going and practice humanity,
I discovered beautiful and audacious Me.

Windfall

Looking in the past makes me think,

How life changed in a matter of a blink.

At times gazing at the mirror I feel,

There have been so many twists in the life's reel.

Too many sweet memories to cherish lifelong,

But the shadow of bitter one's are bound to come along.

The hands which shook and never departed,

And the souls which met just to be parted.

Few are the beings who came as blessings,

Others are thanked for their valuable teachings.

No regrets for all the happenings,

Every morning brings along new beginnings.

Walking in the dark has made it clear,

I would make my way and there's no fear.

Standing strong overcoming every ordeal,

Forgiving the wrongs helping heart to heal.

People change and so does life that's for sure,

Keep going with a heart that's loving and pure.

                                        - Jagjeet Kaur Saini

Who said Love?

Looking at the young couples at times throws back the light on times we had been at that tender age. The age of discovering the other aspect of self. The feel of new emotions and commitments. The age when you are not an adult but at the same time not considered even a kid - "The Teenage". As confusing the description is the same is the state of beings in that age group.

At the tender age of 13-14, kids get into mature relations. The liking for each others company starts being called as love. The expectations rise and emotions get to their peak. The couple act as a pillar for each other in the walks of life. The minutest details about each and every aspect of life are shared and discussed. The cute fights and the endless discoveries about your own self. As time passes by, the bonding strengthens and leads to greater expectations from the partner. 

There have been studies which concluded that most of the kids nowadays fall in relationships due to lack of emotional support from the family.The nuclear family revolution,working parents,tech savvy kids,lead to deprivation of love and belongingness in the family and thus love has to be hunted outside. In the competitive world,there has to be someone who can share some of your worries and sorrows. A need to have happy moments with someone and cherish little things.

It's not that a decade ago people never fell into relations,they did. But today the age at which it all starts is much lower. Kid's mature before time and so does their thought process. The first relation they fall in is thought to be the basis of life. Either it makes life or breaks it with a lifetime lesson. Most often the first ever relationships are out of fantasies and unusual desires which are not always the same at the end. Most of them end up with bitter fights resulting from compatibility and expectation issues. It gives a greater view of life to the person for future decisions to be made. Some learn at this very point whereas,some take time to understand.

In life there are many great priorities which compete with the rank of a relationship in a person's life. Career at a point of time becomes the greatest concern. A person with a great future perspective,prioritizes a career choice over any relation and thus resulting in a breakup issue. Another issue is Ego. One out of the couple tries to overpower the other. Ego clashes occur and thereby somehow the love ends. There are some people who just fall into a relationship for the sake of it. They are themselves not sure of what they want from the other person and end up being a blunder in other person's life.

Ancestor's said love never dies. But what we see today doesn't seem to go by the saying. Relations are short lived. Why?  The reason is simple yet a bit complicated to be understood.

Many Indian families portray successful stories of arrange marriages. A marriage arranged by two families,which eventually develop into love. It is the whole process of getting along and being with each other at every decision of life. Understanding the partner well and stand aside experiencing all ups and downs together. This compatibility and understanding finally develops into love and lasts forever.

However, what we see in today's so called love relationships is a whole opposite story. People first fall in love and then try understanding each other. Relations are short lived because there is commitment made but no clear direction for the relation to flourish well and there is an option to end it up if expectations are not met. No person is ready to adjust and bend down a bit for the other. The mindsets have changed and so did the meaning of love.

The point is not whether a relation is arranged marriage or a love marriage. The main basis for any kind of relation is trust,understanding and commitment. Just saying "I love you" doesn't work, but showing it in every single deed is what makes it going long way. Realizing the value of each other in lives and respecting the existence of the other. Maintaining a balance between the priorities in life and thus living a happy and peaceful life
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