Who said Love?

Looking at the young couples at times throws back the light on times we had been at that tender age. The age of discovering the other aspect of self. The feel of new emotions and commitments. The age when you are not an adult but at the same time not considered even a kid - "The Teenage". As confusing the description is the same is the state of beings in that age group.

At the tender age of 13-14, kids get into mature relations. The liking for each others company starts being called as love. The expectations rise and emotions get to their peak. The couple act as a pillar for each other in the walks of life. The minutest details about each and every aspect of life are shared and discussed. The cute fights and the endless discoveries about your own self. As time passes by, the bonding strengthens and leads to greater expectations from the partner. 

There have been studies which concluded that most of the kids nowadays fall in relationships due to lack of emotional support from the family.The nuclear family revolution,working parents,tech savvy kids,lead to deprivation of love and belongingness in the family and thus love has to be hunted outside. In the competitive world,there has to be someone who can share some of your worries and sorrows. A need to have happy moments with someone and cherish little things.

It's not that a decade ago people never fell into relations,they did. But today the age at which it all starts is much lower. Kid's mature before time and so does their thought process. The first relation they fall in is thought to be the basis of life. Either it makes life or breaks it with a lifetime lesson. Most often the first ever relationships are out of fantasies and unusual desires which are not always the same at the end. Most of them end up with bitter fights resulting from compatibility and expectation issues. It gives a greater view of life to the person for future decisions to be made. Some learn at this very point whereas,some take time to understand.

In life there are many great priorities which compete with the rank of a relationship in a person's life. Career at a point of time becomes the greatest concern. A person with a great future perspective,prioritizes a career choice over any relation and thus resulting in a breakup issue. Another issue is Ego. One out of the couple tries to overpower the other. Ego clashes occur and thereby somehow the love ends. There are some people who just fall into a relationship for the sake of it. They are themselves not sure of what they want from the other person and end up being a blunder in other person's life.

Ancestor's said love never dies. But what we see today doesn't seem to go by the saying. Relations are short lived. Why?  The reason is simple yet a bit complicated to be understood.

Many Indian families portray successful stories of arrange marriages. A marriage arranged by two families,which eventually develop into love. It is the whole process of getting along and being with each other at every decision of life. Understanding the partner well and stand aside experiencing all ups and downs together. This compatibility and understanding finally develops into love and lasts forever.

However, what we see in today's so called love relationships is a whole opposite story. People first fall in love and then try understanding each other. Relations are short lived because there is commitment made but no clear direction for the relation to flourish well and there is an option to end it up if expectations are not met. No person is ready to adjust and bend down a bit for the other. The mindsets have changed and so did the meaning of love.

The point is not whether a relation is arranged marriage or a love marriage. The main basis for any kind of relation is trust,understanding and commitment. Just saying "I love you" doesn't work, but showing it in every single deed is what makes it going long way. Realizing the value of each other in lives and respecting the existence of the other. Maintaining a balance between the priorities in life and thus living a happy and peaceful life
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